Hope For Your Family - Latest Comments

Re: CAUGHT! Between Death and Death

Roger D. Butner — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:11:44 -0000

And for those of you who may not know how the story ends, check it out in Exodus 14. Let's just say...God clearly got them out of their jam, but they had to do the walking.

Re: Wake Up!

Lantz Howard — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 15:28:27 -0000

That was an awesome video.

Thanks for sharing your struggle. I totally agree and have the same struggle, but no answers...just questions ;)

Re: Convicted Much?

Lantz Howard — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 14:29:39 -0000

Wow! That is some powerful stuff. Very visually impacting and speaks truth straight to the heart.

Re: A Time For Everything…

StacyJ — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 12:53:40 -0000

Great post...I too have struggled with the same issue. I have been especially "addicted" to a certain blog site the past year or more and I increasingly sense the Holy Spirit nudging me, questioning me why do I love the words & pictures of this food/family/photo blogger more than His. I will even go so far as to admit that I am very close to "idolizing" this particular person...she has a life that I envy, one that I dreamed of since I was a child, and she has inspired me in some good ways, however, I have not been able to tap-dance around the Holy Spirit and by His mercy & grace, I will get my priorities straight.

Re: Life Lessons on Marriage

Bianca Jagger — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 14:34:38 -0000

six months of instructions prior to marriage.

Re: Three Concerns with “Co-Sleeping”

Mike — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 11:35:14 -0000

My partner falls asleep breastfeeding our 2 yr old almost every night - at about 8:30. This has become the bedtime routine for her. We all sleep in our king bed. This has worked out ok and of course it's so nice to snuggle up a baby. But now things are changing and I'm feeling like time for intimacy of any kind has been practically eliminated - not even a conversation uninterrupted by kids... we have 2 older girls as well. Sometimes we'll flirt a little during the day and have a plan to meet after baby is sleeping. But almost always my partner will be sleeping as well. I'm feeling like this has become an unhealthy routine and is damaging "us". Something good has gone too far and now our relationship is missing something extremely important. I'm ok with co-sleeping... But I'm not ok with this routine that has developed around it.

Re: Happy Father’s Day!

Mellogal — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 17:11:54 -0000

Aimee says you are definitely the Dockers dude:).

Re: Happy Father’s Day!

Roger D. Butner — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 14:55:26 -0000

Yep, that's me - all the way down to the throwing his back out. : ]

Re: More Wisdom from Oogway

Oboefi — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 15:51:50 -0000

Also, just another thought to add:
The Bible tells us not to judge, that we should leave the judging to God.
If we decide to deem the news "good" or "bad," then we are making a judgement call when that is not really our place to do so. We should take things for what they are and leave the judging to God.

Re: Gendered Chatting

Roger D. Butner — Wed, 04 May 2011 12:14:37 -0000

Hey Darlin - thanks for commenting, and for continuing to be so patient and faithful with both of us knuckleheaded guys! I'm looking forward to the whole experience on the trip, and I'll save snarky comments about us sharing a room for another post more on topic. :]

Re: Gendered Chatting

Roger D. Butner — Wed, 04 May 2011 12:12:46 -0000

Thanks, Dee. God has blessed me so much, and I am grateful for this format to share His blessings with others.

Re: Gendered Chatting

Chemaine Butner — Wed, 04 May 2011 00:00:33 -0000

I delight in the strong bond you and Shep share. Thank you for teaching him and leading him by example what it is to be a true man. Love you both! And I'm staying in the room with you! = )

Re: Gendered Chatting

Dee Andrews — Tue, 03 May 2011 12:50:10 -0000

Good blog post, Roger!! What a great piece about your family & using your son's thoughts to lead him to a better place about what being a man means.

Dee

Re: Lessons from a 7 year old boy

Roger D. Butner — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 22:54:06 -0000

Glad you enjoyed the post, Heather! As an anonymous poet once said...

"Beans, beans
Good for the heart
The more you eat, the more you fart
The more you fart, the better you feel,
So, let's eat beans at every meal!"

Re: Lessons from a 7 year old boy

Heather Aynne — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 22:01:27 -0000

Oh my! If only I wasn't laughing so hard about the number of times farting was mentioned, I may have a better comment! But, as you said, farting makes the day better, so it's all good! Thank you for sharing!

Re: Having the Tough Talks: SEX

Roger D. Butner — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 23:44:20 -0000

UPDATE!

I just ordered "Talking to Your Kids about Sex: How to Have a Lifetime of Age-Appropriate Conversations with Your Children about Healthy Sexuality" by Mark Laaser. I'll let you know what I think of the book, and how the conversations go within our family when we get there.

Re: …and a little child will lead them.

Christine Baamonde — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 21:20:00 -0000

Great stuff Roger:)! So excited for you and Shep. I just love it when God shows off!!!

Re: …and a little child will lead them.

Roger D. Butner — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 10:52:29 -0000

Thanks, Kevin! Yes, it was a wonderful adventure, and a story I hope both of us remember for the rest of our lives.

Re: …and a little child will lead them.

Kevin Cicero — Wed, 16 Mar 2011 11:30:21 -0000

What a great story - keep up the good work my brother! I can now appreciate when my parents said: "They grow up fast. Enjoy them while you can."

Re: Parenting Like You Mean It! gut check time.

D Bueche — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 22:13:31 -0000

Thx Roger. That was a great post. It is so easy to just let things slide and miss an incredible chance to teach life long lessons to our kids.

Re: Three Concerns with “Co-Sleeping”

Rachel — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 12:20:02 -0000

This whole idea of kids needing their own sleep space is a fairly new one, historically, and is still fairly unique to some developed nations.

My oldest slept in our bed for the first 3 years of her life, and on the floor in our room for the next two. I imagine we could have transitioned her earlier, but we were in no hurry. My 4 year old still ends up in the floor in our room most nights, and the (almost) 2 year old still sleeps between my husband and I. It has never presented problems to our communication or inhibited intimacy, nor, as Rosemond suggests, has it caused our children to be confused about where authority in our house lies.

Allowing our children to "call the shots" against our own better judgement is damaging in all areas, to be sure, but choosing co-sleeping because it is how everyone sleeps best just makes sense.

When we had children, we invited other people in to our family. I see no reason to elevate the marriage relationship *above* the children-- I believe this is just as damaging as elevating the children's needs above the marriage or the family-- although, especially in infancy, as the grown-ups, we sometimes choose to put our own needs aside for a time to attend to the more pressing needs of the babies.

Re: Salvation or Safety?

Francisco Piera — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 00:34:02 -0000

Bro!!

only another true Christian in True Freedom understand this!

be aware! for they will accuse you of many things!! just like they did to HIM!! but be strong and courageous for HE is with you always! until the end of days!!

Re: There is hope, Marshall.

Dr. Roger D. Butner — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 07:56:46 -0000

Not a Sanctus Real fan? They've got some really powerful stuff.

Re: There is hope, Marshall.

Hans Googer — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 19:20:22 -0000

Roger, Glad to see you are now a huge Eminem fan (ha!). Great post. Don't ever listen to Sanctus Real (ever).

Re: Three Concerns with “Co-Sleeping”

Dr. Roger D. Butner — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 13:28:42 -0000

Thanks for sharing your positive experience, Laura! My wife and I thought we were going to lose our minds, our marriage, or both during our son's first nocturnal 6 months. Given that, I LOVE that your family time of infancy was a restful one. Praise God!

And note that my emphasis in this post is on the risks of co-sleeping after a child is 2. While I do prefer and recommend having a cradle/crib for infants, I do understand and respect the benefits extolled by folks such as your self who have had positive experiences.

Thanks again for sharing.